WHEN I FIRST CALLED HER MUMMA

Yesterday i and my mom were having a gala time.Suddenly she got emotional and said, "Life is like a dream. It seems that till yesterday, u were a small baby. and in a blink of an eye u have grown up, and will soon get married and leave us."

Then she was lost in the golden memories of the past, and revealed the time, when I first called her "MOM".

Clad in a pink chakes frock, i was busy crawling on the floor, and suddenly when she appeared in front of me, i just climbed to her, and called her mom in a toddling fashion, said she, with tears in her eyes.

It was a beautiful feeling for me, to relive those moments of my childhood.

LOVE U MOM. 

आज की पत्नी

कुछ दिन पहले मैं एक सत्संग गयी थी. वहाँ भागवत कथा चल रही थी. सीता जी के चरित्र का गुणगान गया जा रहा था और एक अच्छी पत्नी क गुण समझाए जा रहे थे. जो सज्जन व्यक्ति प्रवचन दे रहे थे, उनका कहना था की एक अची पत्नी का कर्त्तव्य है की अपने पति का हर हाल में साथ दे, उसके लिए अपनी खुशियों का त्याग करे और अपना पत्नी धर्म हर हालत में निभाए.

परन्तु क्या अज भी हम त्रेता युग में ही  जी रहे हैं, जो आज भी ये सारी बातें हूबहू हमें वैसे ही समझाई जा रही हैं, और मानने को भी कहा जा रहा है. क्या आज और उस समय में कोई अंतर ही नहीं रह गया जो सारी बातें वैसे  क वैसे  लागू हो जायें??

आज के युग की नारी बहुत आगे बढ़ चुकी है और पुरुष के साथ कदम से कदम मिला कर चलती है। वो नाही अपना ध्यान रखना बल्कि अपने परिवार की भी देख रेख करना बखूबी जानती है।

और अब वो युग नहीं रह गया की वो अपनी खुशियों का बलिदान देगी तभी वो अपने पति को खुश रख पायेगी। उससे बखूबी पता है की केसे उससे अपनी और साथ ही साथ पति व परिवार की खुशियों और ज़रूरतों को एक ही डोर में बांधना  है।

RH FACTOR OF MARRIAGE

Yesterday I got a shocking news about my cousin’s divorce, who got married just two months ago. When I asked the reason from my grandmother, who went at her place to counsel her, she told me that her husband’s inability to produce a baby went against their relation.

On hearing this, the instant thought which came to me was that before finalizing a relation, the parents of both the would-be’ s investigate loads of things, regarding their nature, physical and mental well-being, workplace, addictive habits etc. but, what if either of them is unable to contribute healthily towards reproduction?

 Do any of Indian families research or investigate, about RH factor’s presence or absence in blood, or do they even try to research that whether both of them are able to produce a baby or not?

Logic is overpowering emotion so be logical.

LET'S SEE WHAT LIFE UNVEILS TO ME?

Life has once again exposed me to the same turmoil and confusion, which i underwent exactly an year ago. A storm of ambiguity and unpredictiblity has invaded my mind. I am in a total dilemma, what to do, and what not to do?

My course is at the verge of completion. And now i am thinking what to pursue further?

And the thing which is pinching me is what would be the perfect recipe for me to cook?

In this one year of my diploma, i lived each and every moment of my life, and to its total contrast in my graduation, i cursed me every next day, as i was not able to enjoy what i was doing. I was feeling as if my identity has totally lost, my freedom snatched, and me not able to set compatablity between me and my studies.

Now its a tough decision, because i am searching for the line in which my identity emboses and i get engulf so much in my work that i don't even realize what is happening in the outer world. I want to enjoy every moment.

With my continuous efforts lets see what life unveils to me.

MILLS AND BOON VS. REAL LIFE

Mills and boon is the publication house, which mostly engage in the publication of romantic thrillers and rom-coms, which characterize a tall dark handsome prince who comes on a shining white horse, and takes his princess into such a land, which remains a just a fantasy for the common girl.

In the novel not only the ending is happy but throughout the romantic journey the actor and actress engage into such a hailing and hearty relationship, that transcends the readers( especially females) into another world of imagination, which gives birth to lot of expectations, that their real life should also be the same, but this is not always true in real life.

The publication house is accused of the culprit of increased number of divorces. And relationship break-up in the west. Everyone wants to be loved and protected, but these love novels increase the expectations of women far from par, portraying the hero in the novel to fulfill all the expectations of his lover in varying ways, ranging from coming back homes with flowers and chocolates to displaying is love all the time in-front of the lady or being courteous at times when he should not be.

But the bitter truth is that it is not always true.

Today the female has become smart enough to decide that hat is wrong and what is right, and what is fact and what is just fiction, therefore women awareness and consciousness must be created regarding the difference between fantasy and fact.

"Dama Dam Mast Qalandar" most popular Qawwali, By: Runa Laila (With Lyr...

Ho….. lal meri pat rakhiyo bhala jhulelalan,

Sindri daa, sewan daa, shakishah baaz kalandar,

Damadam mast kalandarr,

Ali da pehla number,

Ho, lal meri……..

Ho lal meri…

This is one of the world renowned number from Sufi collections.

This song is in the honor of Sufi mystic 'Hazrat Lal Shahbaz Qalandar'. Every word of his name has a meaning - he was known as Hazrat ( prophet of GOD ), Lal ( he wore red robes or mothers fondly call their kids as Lal ), Shahbaz ( Shah - King and Baz - Falcon, king of falcons and an Iranian GOD who led them to victory, a divine spirit ), and finally Qalandar ( a qalandari - a sufi saint, poet, mystic, noble man ). He settled in Serwan ( Sindh, now in Pak ) and tried bringing peace between Hindus and Muslims. Hindus regard him as GOD and reincarnate as well. You can hear many Punjabi singers, singing in his praise. He is also fondly called as Jhulelal.

The meaning of this sufi song is:

O laal meri pat rakhio bala jhoole laalan, Sindri da Sehvan da, sakhi Shabaaz kalandar, Dama dam mast kalandar, Ali dam dam de andar.

Always render your merciful blessings to my life, and be with me at every moment. Oh you resider of Sindh and sewan, you reside in every human being.( as the supreme master of his soul).

Chaar charaag tere baran hamesha, Panjwa mein baaran aayi bala jhoole laalan
O panjwa mein baaran, O panjwa mein baaran aayi bala jhoole laalan, Sindri da Sehvan da, sakhi Shabaaz Qalandar, Dama dam mast Qalandar, Ali dam dam de andar

(Your shrine is always lighted with four lamps, And here I come to light a fifth lamp in your honor )

Hind Sind ( some also sing Ghanan ghanan ) peera teri naubat vaaje, Naal vaje ghadiyaal bala jhoole laalan, O naal vaje, O naal vaje ghadiyaal bala jhoole laalan
Sindri da Sehvan da sakhi Shabaaz Qalandar, Dama dam mast kalandar, ali dam dam de andar, Dama dam mast Qalandar.

(Let your heroic name ring out in Hind & Sindh, Let the gong ring loud for your glory day and night by the people ( ghariyal - watchman, symbolism of night )

Har dam peera teri khair hove, Naam-e-ali beda paar laga jhoole laalan, O naam-e-ali, O naam-e-ali beda paar laga jhoole laalan, Sindri da sehvan da sakhi Shabaaz Qalandar, Dama dam mast Qalandar, Ali dam dam de andar

( O Lord, may you prevail every-time, everywhere, I pray of our well being, In the name of Ali, I pray to you to help my boat cross (the river of life) in safety).

Some of the known names who have lent their voice to this - Ustad Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Abida Parveen, Madam Noor Jehan, Wadali Brothers, Reshma, Sabri Brothers, Jagjit Singh, Runa Laila, Lata Mangeshkar, etc.

This song rejuvenates peace in heart and soul. Though sung with rocking playback support, still it is something which penetrates deep down into the soul of human body, and listeners get so deeply immersed in its charisma that it not only makes them forget all their pains, but also provides them with such magical mental abilities that they become intelligent enough to solve the puzzle of life either by bearing the pain with a smile on their face or by finding the solution of the same.

May God bless every person on this earth. Amen.